We have all heard of the mythical mom tribes. A group of women that would join together and build each other up so that together, they could achieve so much more than they ever could alone. Instead of competing, they embraced each other’s talents and accepted each other’s weakness. Together they covered each other’s gaps and in return had theirs covered as well.
Sounds nice doesn’t it? But to me, relationships seem so difficult at times. Of course, they all have hurdles but typically relationships are founded on all of the good stuff with a little difficulty sprinkled in. We need to magnify that good stuff. We should be laughing with family and friends around a table. Sharing a meal that was made with love and effort. We should be listening to those who are hurting. Encouraging those who have fallen. We should be searching for ways to serve one another. We should love and be loved in return. Yet it’s not happening in so many of our relationships. We are losing deep, personal relationships that we truly need with so many people.
Life has become very social, but only through screens. If we want to know what someone is up to we check their Facebook. We often ask each other “how are you?” But don’t truly listen to their response. We just read hashtags and try to decipher what the meaning of their post is.
We have lost touch with each other. We have lost living, breathing, warm relationships. We have substituted care with likes. I am guilty. It seems easier to just say happy birthday on Facebook vs calling or going to see them and really connecting. It’s easier to just say “get well soon” or “let me know if you need anything” rather than really showing up for somebody. When is the last time we knocked on somebody’s door with some soup and Kleenex when they weren’t feeling well. And if they have something contagious, drop that stuff off, ring the bell and give them a call. (Obviously this isn’t appropriate for every person you’re friends with on Facebook.) But many times we don’t know our family or our friend is really sick, unless they post it online. Being virtual friends is easier than truly listening to people and seeking out their companionship.
But what have we traded for ease and comfort zones?
Where are our hearts? Our cup runneth over, how can I love you better, hearts. Not the ones we leave on a picture with a “double tap”.
Where are our hands? The ones capable of comforting, reaching out and lifting up. Not the emoji ones we use to 🙏🏻 or 👍🏻.
Where are we? We need each other. We need people to check on us. We need to check on people. We need people to reach out. We need to reach out. We need arms to hug us, mouths to encourage us, ears to hear us. And to show that same love and attention right back.
We need more love and less likes.
I think many of us are looking for our tribe or trying to strengthen the one we have. The more we lift each other up and help other people, the stronger we will be. I saw a quote earlier by Ralph Waldo Emerson that said, “The only way to have a friend is to be one.”
If you need a friend or someone to listen to you, reach out to me. Email me, call me, come see me. I truly mean it. I can be a great listener.
If you need someone to care, I am your girl. I am in a season of learning to love and accept myself. One of my strongest traits is how deeply I care. And I have decided to stop seeing it as a negative one and to accept it as a gift of mine.
Maybe I’m not your cup of tea, find somebody who is. Let down your guard and look around. Who can you reach out to? Who can you love better?
And even if you don’t think you need somebody, maybe someone needs you. You may not have to look far.
…Now don’t get me wrong, I think social media is a great way to enhance relationships, just as long as we aren’t replacing them.
well said Callie!! Great words are hard to come by. There is so much truth in all of what you said. The problem is most people are so busy trying to find a solution or to fill the void that they keep going around in circles. Your absolutely right, we ask , how are you, and most of the time don’t wait ( or don’t want to hear the answer) we are to be , God’s, hands, feet, mouth, to reach out to a lost and dieing world and I encluded find it so hard to do when people are so cruel, and angry. I also, feel so much like you do, I want to be a peace make, ( always have been), trying to help in any way I can, trying to comfort the hurting, and pray or finciancial help if I can, always will to see a need, but then I feel like no one else cares, or like it really matters. I am forever helping homeless people, ( when my heart tugs me the right way), some are just there for the ride. But I feel the God ,( let’s you know when to help). But your right, we need to reach out in love, and be there for each other. I will pray for you daily that this article, will bloom and blossom, and you will grow in the grace and knowledge of Jesus.
Mrs. Debbie loving people is one of our greatest callings. I think connecting with people can be difficult because people feel and express love in different languages. We sometimes assume a person does not love us as much because they do not show it the same way that we do. All we can do is love and if they do not care than that is on them and you have done your part. All you can control is how you love them :)Thank you for your support!